From 365 Days of Understanding Your Grief, by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
As I’ve been grieving, I’ve seen that I generally apologize for being open and trustworthy about my grief. “Sorry I’m such a multitude,” I would say after a crying jag in entrance of a pal. Or, “I’m sorry I would like a lot assist.” However I shouldn’t be apologetic about my regular and essential grief.
So now I’m switching out sorries for thank-yous:
- “Thanks for listening to me.”
- “Thanks for serving to me.”
- “Thanks for being there for me.”
Thank-yous honor my have to mourn and be supported in my grief. Additionally they prolong gratitude to my helpers. So a lot better! I don’t need to apologize for being real.
